Responding to a friend

A friend of mine was asking some questions and speaking of his desire to do what God says and speaking of his seeming lack of actual desire to do it, and I posted a response that seemed more directed at my own life than his…so I am going to share it here because maybe there is someone else who needs to hear it too…

Working in a hospital environment like I do tends to make me sort of calloused to the needs of others. Every single day, I go to my dead-end job of parking people’s cars, and every day I see people who’s loved ones are dying or who’s children are suffering from various cancers or men who can no longer speak and have one of those little electronic voice boxes that makes them sound like that robot at the beginning of the Beastie Boys song “Intergalactic,” and, more often than not, I don’t give a damn. I want to care, but more often than not, I just don’t.

Or at least that is what I used to think.

The Good Marriage: Gender Roles

The particularity of each life is obscured by reductionizing abstractions.  Life leaks out of us as we find ourselves treated as objects, roles, images, economic potential, commodities, consumers. - Eugene Peterson

One of the most divisive issues within the Christian church here in America is the issue of gender.  On the one hand, you have the group called the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, which states that its aim is “to set forth the teachings of the Bible about the complementary differences between men and women, created equally in the image of God, because these teachings are essential for obedience to Scripture and for the health of the family and the church.”  Among these ideas is that men are to be the dominant partner in marriage and women are to be submissive to their husbands.

On the other hand, you have the group Christians for Biblical Equality, which which believes “that the Bible, properly interpreted, teaches the fundamental equality of men and women.”  This group would say that husbands and wives are to work together in marriage equally, and not in a hierarchical structure.

Whatever your personal view of all of this is, I want us to look at what the Bible says.  Set aside what you believe the Bible says and walk with me through the Scriptures as we discuss what they say about gender roles in a marriage relationship.

The Good Marriage: Foundations in Scripture

History is ripe with pictures and stories of marriage and weddings.  And, while history can be a wonderful teacher, it is too broad a picture for a discussion on what makes for a good, strong marriage.  Plus, history is purely the human story, and since it is the human story, it is also full of error and misunderstanding.  Human tradition sometimes contradicts common sense and often times becomes irrelevant as cultures evolve over time.

But there is one thing has not changed in thousands of years, and that is religious texts.  For the sake of our discussion, since most of my readers are Christians, I am going to limit my discussion of marriage within scriptures to the Christian Bible.  At the end of this post, though, I will link to some articles about marriage within some other religious contexts for the sake of my non-Christian readers and for some further reflection by those readers who are Christians.

So they weren’t totally silent…just incomplete…

So the SBC has indeed made statements in opposition to Bruce Ware’s comments blaming women for their being abuses…but they didn’t make any statements against him personally nor in a manner that the general public is likely to come across…here’s an article about it…so I retract part of my statements about the SBC…I still think someone needs to address the Jesus as lense for interpreting Scripture thing, though…

The Good Marriage: Foundations in History

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4 TNIV)

Discussing marriage in our current cultural context is a touchy thing.  With homosexuals fighting for their right to have legally binding “marriages” to the broader Evangelical community fighting for “traditional marriages,” one is left with the notion that this beautiful thing is nearly undefinable.  To say marriage is between a man and a woman only seems intolerant and yet, simultaneously, “same-sex marriage” is an oxymoron of sorts with “marriage” implying that two different things are coming together.  Merriam-Webster would have us think differently, but it is hard to change the implications of a term when it has been used in a particular manner for as long as the term “marriage” has.

Bothered By Incarnation

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. (Philippians 2:5-8 ESV)

The reason the incarnation bothers us so much is because it takes the idea of turning power structures upside down to a much deeper level.  Not only does the Trinity turn our world upside down in Itself, but when God became a man, He humbled Himself and put Himself at the mercy of His created beings.  God was basically giving us a free shot at Himself and begging us to take it.  He came before a people who were themselves denying God and stood in their midsts as Himself.

This bothers us because it means that, in a way, even God submitted Himself to us.  He “made himself nothing” is how the Bible puts it.

Bothered By the Trinity

We can never get away with depersonalizing the Gospel or the truth to make it easier, more convenient. Knowing God through impersonal abstractions is is ruled out, knowing God through programmatic projects is abandoned, knowing God in solitary isolation is forbidden. Trinity insists that God is not an idea or a force or a private experience but personal and only known in personal response and engagement. - Eugene Peterson

If I made the statement that I was bothered by the Trinity, it would immediately elicit comments about how I am in some way denying God and am apostate and such like things. So, before I make that comment, let me just preface it by saying that I believe in it firmly and think it is probably the best way to understand God Himself. It’s a mysterious truth, but a truth nonetheless.

That being said, I am bothered by the Trinity. I am not bothered by it because it’s true and it makes me uncomfortable because God’s Spirit is calling me to salvation or anything like that. It bothers me because of the implications of it. And I think this is true of even great theologians as well.

Let the Drilling Begin…and other thoughts

Today, President George Bush lifted the ban on off-shore drilling here in the States. This was a monumental decision on many levels. I find it interesting, though, that this comes right after the G8 Summit’s comments on human-induced climate change and a commitment by us and the other nations to reduce carbon emissions by like half by 2025.

Jesus Is Pretty Important

In the past God spoke to our ancestors through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom also he made the universe. The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. After he had provided purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in haven. (Hebrews 1:1-3 TNIV)

When I said that I didn’t think I could ever be a Southern Baptist again, and even referred to them as apostate, it ruffled some feathers. In fact, some responders have seemed offended. And there seems to be a distraction within my previous post that keeps taking precedence over what I was actually saying. I was not stating my separation from the SBC as a response to the way some leaders have chosen to treat women, although injustice is reason enough to do so. My issue is with the fact that the denomination as a whole does not see Jesus as central to His own religion.

I Am Done

I have been following some things going on within the denomination of my upbringing recently that have been less than encouraging. In fact, because of these issues, I must say that I am completely done with the Southern Baptist Convention.